September 9, 2012

"Popularity cost me my "Dignity".

People often live there lives by, Who drives the finest "Cars", The biggest "House" on the block with the finest pool for the best parties. They dressed their children in name brand clothes and shoes.We put our children in every sports for popularity no matter the cost. Then we eat at the finest diners.
 
Then when our children become of age,
We take them to get there Drivers License, then off to buy them a new 
Ford Mustang, andwered agree to pay the payments and insurance. Then we hand the keys to them give with extra  money for gas. Now your children are free to run and do as they please. Not seeing them only long enough to say ?, Mom or Dad can I get $20 for gas and food?. Then your child Is out the door again thinking "Mom and Dad we have the perfect Life".

Here's the big (Shocker).!!!!
Finally time to sit and take a breather from your, Richer then now lifestyle.
Husband walks in and here it is, That Dreaded word. (Debt). We need to talk "Honey". We lost our (House).
We just couldn't pay the $1020.00 a month mortgage payments. We have already used the children's college fund money. The only words in your mind that you could think of was!!!!. How did this happen?, and where did we go wrong. 

I have my opinionated answer on this.
The first reason !!! We all like to live a little richer, sometimes over looking the fact that will it hurt us 5 or 10 years down the road when we decide to start a family. I believe that's why divorced rates on the rise. We have teenagers turning into adults with no jobs or education to support themselves. Women and Men living off Welfare and child support, because the've become so depressed, they can't find a job or choose to just give up.

There's nothing wrong with living within our means. Teaching our children "Morals" and to say it's "OK" to be in sports but pick one. Brand names are not always the best brands. Then when your old enough to get a job we will discuss helping you get a car and Insurance.

Explain to your children that buying the finer things in life just to be Popular, can cost you everything. Like "Debt" with no way out, Cant afford to send your kids to college. All because I wanted to look and feel "Rich" like my Popular Friends.
To me there all excuses, Just because you have, A fine Car, The richest house on the block, and eat at fancy diners, wear only name brand clothes makes you no better then me. 

Trying to povide a living while raising a family is hard in today's world, While thinking your better then the rest.
See common sense and living within your means could have sent your child,
to "College". Living in a Beautiful house you could have left to your children in the future.So because i thought "Popular" was better then "Dignity"
Me and my 2 children live in a fixed income house, I also receive food-stamps.
I'm divorced and my children cannot be in Sports.
I now have nothing to offer my children because I to thought I was,
Popular and deserved better no matter the cost.
So Being, "Popular" cost me my "Dignity".

Anna Baty
9-3-12

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